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A lot of stress going around lately! RL is always full of it. I think the problem sometimes in SL stuff is, we all spend a lot of energy in RL trying to manage day to day stuff and stress. Sometimes by the time we have the time to sit down here, we're too tired mentally or physically to deal with stress and conflict inside a game, too. There is a mindset that I can get into for RL that often helps me through days. It takes a little effort so sometimes it's harder to utilize online, but worth a try and has kept me from exploding more than once.
In a nutshell: We have no real control over anyone but ourselves and our own reactions. Over any event, we do have a choice on how to react and power over our own reaction.
Here's some quotes on that way of thinking, food for thought.
Dalai Lama:
The basic thing is that everyone wants happiness, no one wants suffering. And happiness mainly comes from our own attitude, rather than from external factors. If your own mental attitude is correct, even if you remain in a hostile atmosphere, you feel happy.
Victor Frankl:
Everything can be taken from a man but ... the last of the human freedoms - to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way. We who lived in concentration camps can remember the men who walked through the huts comforting others, giving away their last piece of bread. They may have been few in number, but they offer sufficient proof that everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way.
Edwin H. Friedman:
The colossal misunderstanding of our time is the assumption that insight will work with people who are unmotivated to change. Communication does not depend on syntax, or eloquence, or rhetoric, or articulation but on the emotional context in which the message is being heard. People can only hear you when they are moving toward you, and they are not likely to when your words are pursuing them. Even the choices words lose their power when they are used to overpower. Attitudes are the real figures of speech.
Carlos Castaneda:
The trick is in what one emphasizes. We either make ourselves miserable, or we make ourselves happy. The amount of work is the same.
Marcus Aurelius:
If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment. |
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Ive got two to add here.....
"When your mind goes blank, don't forget to turn off the sound"
"When that one great scorer comes to mark against your name, he'll not ask whether your won or lost but how you played the game"
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